Recognition, Causes, and Treatment of Disruptive Behavior in Children

First of all, it is truly important to talk about early childhood, which is a precursor to oppositional or rebellious behavior in school-aged children and adolescents. From the moment a child is born, parents are their first social environment; the home is the first social unit where the child gets to know the world and accommodates and assimilates patterns of future behavior.

Everything you say, every action you take, appears perfect in a child’s eyes. Due to incomplete brain maturation, young children have not yet developed the ability to distinguish good from bad, right from wrong. It is no secret that children perceive the outside world through the way you love them and through how responsive you are to their needs when they are at their most vulnerable and helpless.

But how can you avoid making mistakes in parenting?
Let me encourage you: there is no such thing as flawless parenting, just as there is no child who will not make mistakes. Making mistakes is not frightening—what is frightening is failing to recognize them and continuing to act inappropriately.

So how do we correct a mistake?
Simply, through positive parenting:

Do not forget to speak affirmatively to your child. Praise them when they behave constructively. Parents often notice defiant behavior more easily than behavior they actually like.
Set clear boundaries and be consistent with them (a mother who is constantly on the computer or phone has little ground to enforce a rule that her child should not spend too much time using electronic devices). We are our children’s role models—they are our reflection.
Spend quality time together. In modern life we truly have little time, but we should not allow the time we do have to be reduced to an absence of communication with our children. (Ten minutes of talking with your child is more valuable than sitting together for an hour watching a movie.)
Be an active listener to your child. Never interrupt them when they are speaking to you—surely they have something important to say.
Create an environment where your child feels safe to talk about any topic, in a way that accepts even negative emotions, without additional judgment. It is logical that we, as adults, would also feel safer if someone understood us when it is not our best day.
Maintain a predictable daily routine with your children. Children who have clear rules and expectations about what will happen tomorrow are more protected and this helps prevent the development of anxiety disorders.

Recognition, Causes, and Treatment of Disruptive Behavior in Children

So how do we correct a mistake?
Simply, through positive parenting:

Do not forget to speak affirmatively to your child. Praise them when they behave constructively. Parents often notice defiant behavior more easily than behavior they actually like.
Set clear boundaries and be consistent with them (a mother who is constantly on the computer or phone has little ground to enforce a rule that her child should not spend too much time using electronic devices). We are our children’s role models—they are our reflection.
Spend quality time together. In modern life we truly have little time, but we should not allow the time we do have to be reduced to an absence of communication with our children. (Ten minutes of talking with your child is more valuable than sitting together for an hour watching a movie.)
Be an active listener to your child. Never interrupt them when they are speaking to you—surely they have something important to say.
Create an environment where your child feels safe to talk about any topic, in a way that accepts even negative emotions, without additional judgment. It is logical that we, as adults, would also feel safer if someone understood us when it is not our best day.
Maintain a predictable daily routine with your children. Children who have clear rules and expectations about what will happen tomorrow are more protected and this helps prevent the development of anxiety disorders.